| When I first heard this I laughed - a perfect | | | | also have to be real. |
| marriage, the counselor said was only possible | | | | Compromise unfortunately has become a dirty word |
| between a blind woman and a deaf man, where the | | | | for many. This is because the true essence of the |
| blind wife cannot see the inadequacies of her partner | | | | term compromise has been raped and abused for a |
| and the deaf man cannot hear her constant | | | | long time by those who condemn it. Let me tell you |
| grumbling. You and your spouse could have played | | | | that compromise is not about giving up your own |
| deaf and blind during your courtship days when both | | | | identity for the sake of saving your marriage. If you |
| of you dreamt of a perfect relationship. As is | | | | compromise for the sake of love and nothing else, |
| evident, today the dream has turned into a | | | | your chances of getting disillusioned are also reduced |
| nightmare and you are desperate to save your | | | | significantly. Today you have to think about how to |
| marriage. | | | | save your marriage, because none of you were ever |
| If the above anecdote made any sense to you, you | | | | 'equal' partners - there was always a winner and a |
| would have perhaps understood where the fallacy | | | | loser. |
| lies. And your marriage is not the only one that has | | | | Any and every marriage survives on four pillars: love, |
| got into trouble for this reason. Hundreds of people | | | | respect, trust and faith. All these, not necessarily in |
| make this mistake of looking for 'perfectionism' in | | | | this order should be unconditional. The less you |
| their spouse. The woman has to be a super wife, a | | | | expect from your spouse, the less you would need |
| super worker at office, a super hostess at social | | | | to think about how to save your marriage. This in no |
| gatherings, a super chef and finally a super mom. On | | | | ways means that there is no place for arguments, |
| the other hand the man has to have the look of | | | | counter-views or justifications in a married |
| Jude Law, be a winner like James Bond and love like | | | | relationship. Everything can be achieved, and you can |
| whomever the wife fancies in Hollywood. If you | | | | get what you want in your spouse, provided they |
| want to save your marriage, come down to earth | | | | are backed by the four pillars mentioned just a while |
| my friend. Stop looking for the perfect spouse. Your | | | | back. |
| partner is real and your expectations from him or her | | | | |